Some people are really turned off by the phase "born again" Christian. My dad once attended a "christian" conference of a liberal denomination and the guest speaker made a joke about "born again Christians" and everyone in the room laughed--except my dad. He didn't think it was too funny; having recently accepted the Lord Jesus Christ as his personal Saviour, he realized the significance of what the term meant. My dad got up and left the room, and that afternoon, the conference (good for him!).
There was a time in the 1980's when the phrase "born again" was thrown around very loosely, perhaps it was a term used by new age movements, cults, and "religious" people to describe various experiences they had encountered. I recall people making fun of President Carter when he proclaimed he was a "born again" Christian.
Regardless, Jesus commanded Nicodemus, who was a leader of the Jews, a Pharisee, that he must be born again. John 3:3 tells us "Jesus answered and said unto him, Verily, verily, I say unto thee, Except a man be born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God."
Jesus went on to explain what it meant to be born again, telling of the first birth, which is the physical birth, and then the second birth, which is a spiritual birth. And he repeated the command in verse seven, "Marvel not that I said unto thee, Ye must be born again."
If you are reading this post, you are alive physically--but my question to you--have you been born spiritually? You should definitely recall a day when you were born into God's family because a transformation takes place in your heart as you pass from darkness into light. There is no gray area, either you are God's child through the new birth, or you have not entered into his family. It doesn't happen "automatically" because your parents were Christians, or because you go to church, or were baptized, or because you have had some type of religious experience.
I would encourage you to read the Bible for yourself, and make sure you have been born again, because the Bible also talks about a second death....Revelation 21:8. Just as there are two births, a physical and a spiritual, there are two deaths, a physical death and a spiritual death. My question to you dear friend, have you experienced the second birth, so you don't have to face the second death?