Sunday, January 10, 2016

Synergy and the Church

One of the things I love the most about teaching English as a second language is that it forces me to study. As a teacher, I prepare myself for each lesson so that I can make it more interesting for my students.

One of my favorite classes is at a company where I teach English in the workplace. The vocabulary relates to topics which they need to communicate to their fellow employees and business contacts in a global economy.

One of the articles we are studying contained the words synergy and pro activity which are buzz words in the corporate world . I have to admit that I needed to look up the definition of synergy, but I had a good idea what being proactive involved. I was amazed at how much we could apply these terms to our families and social relationships, especially in the church.

The word synergy comes from the Greek word sunergia, meaning cooperation, and also sunergos, working together. Wow, nothing new here! We've known this for ages. Don't you wish that you were the one to coin this phrase and write the book about it! Just like Solomon said, there is nothing new under the sun and the making of many books there is no end. Someone happened to pull the term out of the dictionary and make it popular once again. 

God designed this concept--he knew that Adam needed Eve to work together with him and that together they could be more effective than apart. He designed the family to work as a team unit. God also designed the church to help believers work together to accomplish the Great Commission. We have to work together in unity if we are going to have an effect on this world for our Lord Jesus Christ.

Taken from the blog of Wendy Kusumowidagdo, here are four basic components needed for good synergy:

1. Shared vision, values and goals
2. Good leadership and people willing to follow their guidance
3. Trust, respect, and compassion
4. Positive environment

I would like to add that when there is good leadership people will want to follow because they know that they can trust their leader because a good leader has their best interests at heart. Negative synergy would be a lack of unity and shared goals, a divisive, complaining spirit, and unwillingness to submit to authority.

The second term I needed to study was what it meant to be proactive. I had a good idea of the meaning, but I read an article, which was written concerning the workplace, but so much of it could be applied to the Christian life.

In a nutshell, being proactive means not waiting for situations to happen and then react. It involves foresight, preparation, taking the first step, etc.

It means more than merely taking initiative. It means that as human beings, we are responsible for our own lives--our behavior is a function of our decisions, not our conditions. We can subordinate feelings to values, beliefs, and convictions. We have to take the initiative and the responsibility to make things happen.

Look at the word responsibility — “response-ability” — the ability to choose your response. Highly proactive people recognize that responsibility. They do not blame circumstances, conditions, or conditioning for their behavior. Their behavior is a product of their own conscious choice, based on values, rather than a product of their conditions, based on feeling.

Reactivity--The Good and Bad
By nature, we are all reactive. A proactive person though has learned to respond to external environment and things beyond their control based on Biblical principles rather than whims and fancies. Let's face it, we all are affected by situations and circumstances--but how we react to them determines whether we will come out as a survivor or be shipwrecked.

Reactive people make decisions based on their physical environment. If the weather is good, they feel good. If it isn’t, it affects their attitude and their performance. Proactive people learn to make the best of it-- whether it rains or shines makes no difference to them. They are driven by a deliberate decision to do what they know is the right thing based on their values, convictions, and the scripture (if they are believers); for example, they go to church whether they feel like it or not because they know it is the right thing to do based on the scriptures and obedience to God is what drives them.

Reactive people are also affected by their social environment, by the “social weather.” When people treat them well, they feel well; when people don’t, they become defensive or protective. Reactive people build their emotional lives around the behavior of others. I find this one of the most difficult aspects of being in the ministry. As a pastor's wife, I can not allow myself to quit serving the Lord when people appreciate what I am doing for them, or when they don't. If you are in the ministry, be sure that you will be tested in these areas.

Making it Real 

I hate to admit it, but as a missionary wife I occasionally allow myself to be negatively reactive--and have sometimes felt like giving up and quitting--desiring to get out of the "people helping business" so to speak. We have invested many years of our life trying to help others make wise decisions and yet we see so many setbacks. For example, my husband has been helping a man for months to get off drugs--and after the man left the protected environment of a Christian Center for Men, he was tempted by his old friends to return to drugs. Yet as long as someone is still living, we have to believe there is still hope. This is where we pray and rather than trust our human reasoning, believe that God is still able to work a miracle.

The apostle Paul said in 2 Corinthians 12:15 “And I will very gladly spend and be spent for you; though the more abundantly I love you, the less I be loved.” It is easy to be discouraged when people don't value or appreciate what you do for them. It is easy to feel like quitting the ministry altogether. This is where we must choose to be proactive, not reactive, and continue walking with our eyes fixed on Jesus and His example when his disciples abandoned him in his darkest hour.

Synergy and the Church
Leave a Church the Right Way
We need to be realistic in that God moves people to other churches and places of service for different reasons, and we are here to help people achieve God's will for their lives and sometimes that means moving forward to a different place of ministry. You can leave a church with the pastor's full blessing.

Sometimes it is necessary to leave a church for scriptural reasons, and I know  people who have tried to leave on good terms, but for whatever reasons the pastor or leadership was unable to understand or accept their leaving, which creates negative synergy-- but in an ideal world, we should be able to love one another in spite of our differences for the betterment of the kingdom of God.

On the other hand, sometimes people leave church without communicating with anyone, which hurts. If there is a problem, people should at least have the  courage and courtesy to explain why. Many problems can be resolved with a simple conversation. Churches are made up of imperfect people--the pastor and his family included....and we live in an imperfect world--and there is also an enemy working overtime in the minds of his children. The Bible tells us in Ephesians 6:12 "For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places."

The good news is that as believers, we don't have to find the strength within our own selves--but if we take the first step towards obedience, God enables us and empowers us with His Holy Spirit to continue walking, and experience the life of victory. We have to choose to follow after synergy, be proactive in our decisions, and take personal responsibility for those things within our control.


Sherry Quatro said...

Excellent, Carolee. I needed this... right now! Thank you for sharing the wisdom the Lord has shown you.

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Carolee's Corner Canary Islands said...

Thanks Sherry. I am glad you are reading my blog.