Friday, April 1, 2016
How to Help Hurting People
This is going to be a really short post, but it describes so much of what my husband encounters in the ministry when dealing with people and their problems. He has a gift of building a rapport with others which I admire. This didn't come overnight. In our earlier years in the ministry, we tried to "fix" everyone's problems by identifying the cause and giving them the Biblical prescription on what they were doing wrong.
Over the years, it seems to me that most people already know what they are doing wrong. Just like we know most of our health issues could be resolved if we ate right, exercised more, and lost weight. It is easy to point out people's faults and think to yourself, if only they did/or didn't do this.
They need someone to listen.
They need to feel like someone cares, and by listening to them, they no longer feel like that they have to tackle their problem by themselves, and they get to release some emotions. They get to vent.
By the way, I am not advocating glossing over sin and serious issues that need to be addressed. But before we can help, we need to let them be heard.